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Richard Anton Diaz

Nov 28 2020

On Giving and Taking Bert & Soph1a Hellinger

-Giving and Taking
-Giving and Taking with Love
-The Balance by Passing On to Others
-The Balance in the Negative Way
-Revenge with Love
-The will to Exterminate

https://www.hellinger.com/en/familienstellen/basic-orders-of-life/conscience-and-love/#accordion-giving-and-taking-with-love

Written by Richard Anton Diaz · Categorized: Journal

Nov 28 2020

Sex and the Balance of Give & Take by RICHARD GRIFFIN

One way for a couple to think about their relationship is for each partner to say of it, “There is me, there is you, and there is us.” It’s in the us where the couple gets to create the relationship, including what role sex will play.

In almost any couple’s sexual relationship, one partner has more desire than the other. If this partner’s desire isn’t reciprocated by the other, it puts the partner in a weakened position, facing the possibility of rejection anytime he or she makes an overture for sex. Bert Hellinger, the founder of Family System Constellations, sees the balance of give and take as one of the fundamental needs of any relationship, and it is especially important in the sexual realm.

If both partners are adult in the sense that neither is looking to the other for what they didn’t get from one or both parents, then the relationship stands a good chance of being respectful of the balance of give and take. If the partners are not fully adult, e.g., if each is still entangled in some way with mother or father, the relationship will likely exhibit the characteristics of co-dependency. The you will become enmeshed with the me, and the us will not be fully formed, and much of the couple’s dynamic will proceed along lines laid down by unconscious patterns formed during childhood or teen years.

The sexual act is the most powerful, affirming, and even risky way we can embrace life. This act can make us parents and change the world by bringing in new life. It is at the same time our most humble and vulnerable activity, where we expose ourselves to each other in ways we would never do with others. A partner who understands this meets the other with the utmost respect and care when the other is making an overture for sexual love. This respect must be especially present when the partner chooses in the moment not to reciprocate the other’s desire: the partner’s expression of desire should not run the risk of a painful rejection. When partners honor this, and the rejection of the overture is done with love, respect, and the possibility of the overture being welcomed later, the sexuality and the loving are freer to become deeper and more authentic.

For some practical advice on how to show this respect to your partner, consider starting with the sex columnist Dan Savage’s acronym GGG. This stands for “good, giving, and game.” Think, “good in bed,” “giving of equal time and equal pleasure,” and “game for anything—within reason.” It’s the within reason bit where you get to explore new ways of being a respectful and loving adult in your us relationship.

If the rejection of sexual overtures is chronic, the partner with the greater desire is likely to become resentful and begin to pull away or seek comfort and safety elsewhere. Before it gets this far, each partner in an adult relationship must accept the responsibility of acknowledging the imbalance. For example, the partner who is being rejected can make it clear to the other that the rejections are creating significant pain. This can be done simply by stating what is true for him or her, without blaming the other, then making a request (rather than a complaint) for what he or she wants from the partner to restore balance to the relationship. If restoring balance proves too challenging on their own, the couple can seek help from a therapist or other healing professional. When both partners feel a responsibility for taking care of the relationship, disruptions are viewed as something to be approached as a team, rather than assigning responsibility or blame to one partner. Both partners work to create a new us that allows love to flow more freely.

The relationship between give and take applies, of course, to more than just sex: how money is earned and spent, who takes care of the children, how household chores are shared, how much time is spent together as a couple, vacation destinations, and more. In short, it applies to everything that has to do with us. It especially applies when things go wrong or get complicated. How is balance restored when there is an affair, a previous marriage that still influences the current one, the influence of an addiction, co-dependency, the loss of a child, a set of intrusive in-laws? These questions and more can be productively explored through the lens of Family Constellations.

https://www.richardgriffincoaching.com/blog/2018/7/5/sex-and-the-balance-of-give-and-take

Written by Richard Anton Diaz · Categorized: Journal

Nov 24 2020

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Jan 12 2020

Testimonials

“Constellations are an experience that cannot be easily described, yet witnessing and participating in a constellation are an invaluable contribution to our personal growth. They allow us to see the invisible entanglements in our families and businesses that keep us stuck without our even knowing it. Anton facilitates this technique with such skill and grace that it becomes art. The unseen becomes seen, the misunderstood, understood. His work is simple, direct and profound.“ 

-MM, Holistic Therapist 


For the past 10 years I have experienced many family constellations by wonderful facilitators but the experience of this work being facilitated by Anton has deeply stood out and given me a clarity I was long yearning for.  His approach to facilitating is very simple yet profound. He is able to enter the stillest of the constellation that is unfolding and follow it to its own completion without intervening in the process.  This is his magic!!! I highly recommend for any one who is desiring to deepen their relationship with themselves or their loved ones to attend Anton’s Family Constellation workshops
which he has titled Journeys to the Core.

-Rita Gendelman – Specializing in children with Autism


Anton is impeccable as a facilitator for Family Constellations. He stays light but compassionate with challenging emotions and life stories, as well as unflinching in the face of egoic pushbacks that might arise. Anton’s depth of experience, knowledge and facility, with Family Constellations is the highest I’ve experienced! 

-Tara


I have experienced the work of Family Constellations through the workshops facilitated by Anton both as an observer and participant. Though difficult to describe in words, I can only describe it as powerful, illuminating and extraordinarily moving. I still have no idea of how and why this works, but the effects cannot be denied. I have received helpful clarity, the effects of which are still unfolding in my life. I encourage you to come and experience this profound work.

-Eva

Written by Richard Anton Diaz · Categorized: Uncategorized

Aug 25 2019

https://journeystothecore.com/1107/

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